As a part of an assignment for my writing course, I was asked
to write a letter to my 10 year old self, and list 5 or more lessons I’d like to let
her in on. So I went on this journey down memory lane, tears pouring out of my
eyes I wrote her a letter.
And I have chosen to share these life lessons here.
The 10 life lessons I learnt in the last 10 years.
Lesson no. 1 - People/Life
will keep stealing your food, your clothes, your money, your house, your family,
your friends, your lover, your heart, your brain, your soul. But they will
never be able to steal the magic only your heart can make.
Lesson no. 2 - Baby
you will meet a lot of ‘Friends’ in the next 10 years, most of whom you feel
will attend your wedding and walk down the aisle as your bridesmaids,
unfortunately they won’t. Most you will call ‘Best friends’ they will be the
first to leave, they will sugar coat lies and give you unrealistic promises,
you will love these ‘Best friends’ with all the love you deem possible, you
will give them parts of yourself, but baby girl, THEY WILL LEAVE, there are no
absolutes in life just what if’s and if not’s. Don’t be disheartened, this will
not be the end. Your people are the ones
you choose, these people will be there with you, and if and when they leave you
will be at peace, knowing these people played their part and in return loved
you with everything they had in them. If people have to leave baby girl, let
them, learn to let go of what you can’t control.
Lesson no. 3 - You may
say you hate a lot of people, but inside of you, you have love, and only love.
Love will save you, love will triumph pain, love will triumph heartbreak, love
will triumph hate. You learn to forgive yourself, by loving yourself.
Lesson no. 4 - Beauty
is not defined by if your waist is 24, or if you wear a sports bra or a
push-up, it is not defined by the brands your mother buys you, or makeup you
use, beauty is not defined by the way you tie your hair or how pretty your
dress is , it is not defined by the boy you date or the bag you carry to school.
Beauty is defined by YOU, you were beautiful when you were in you mothers arms,
you were beautiful when you were 1, you were beautiful when you touched 9, you
were beautiful the day you decided you wanted longer hair and you were
beautiful the day you wanted it short again. You are beautiful irrespective of
your chest size or your waist size. You are beautiful because your mind is
beautiful, you are beautiful because your soul is beautiful, you are beautiful
because God made you beautiful, you are beautiful because you choose to be
beautiful, you are beauty, and the right man will see the beauty I see right
now.
Lesson no. 5 - You
are Free Baby girl, just go fly now.
Lesson no. 6 - Forgiveness
is the key to sanity. Keep forgiving, you will never go mad.
Lesson no. 7 - Love
is not a game, you do not have to win, you simply have to love. You want a kiss
in the rain? You’re going to get one. You want to wake up one morning with his
arms wrapped around you? You will get that too. You will get the love you want,
because you gave the love you deserve. Your perfect love is out there, but
don’t search him in every person that passes by, don’t search him at all. Love
will find you when you need it the most. Till then love the people who love
you.
Lesson no. 8 - You
can only be as broken as you choose to be. You can either choose to be broken
in public or choose to be broken in private. Irrespective, you are going to
need people no matter what. Look for your people.
Lesson no. 9 - You’ve
got this 1 life; you get moments, make memories, good or bad, make them.
Moments stay; even after the curtain call, even after the actors leave, the
moment will always stay. Do something for yourself, and trust in this, that the
ones who love you right now, will love you forever, they may leave, but the
love will never.
Lesson no. 10 - Smile,
laugh, love, live. Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise, you are beautiful,
honest and a wonderful friend. If a relationship ended, learn from it. Remember
don’t shut out the people who care about you. Let them in, you don’t need a
special someone with a key to open that locked door, open the goddam door and
let your demons out, let the people you love and you meet, see the real you,
let them choose if they want to love you, and if they don’t, let them go.
Be you,
Always be you,
Choose you,
Always choose you.
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